Saturday, April 26, 2008

Only the buzz words change

Introduced a year before my birth was Transcendental Meditation (TM). The idea here is to simply be. Twice daily, the practioner sits for 20 minutes and attempts to empty the mind of all concerns. A mantra helps to maintain focus. This is not a contemplative practice - there is nothing to study or focus on during the meditation - it is about finding twenty minutes a day to transcend all the "stuff" around you.

Fast forward to the 1970s, and you find EST. The actual process taught during these sessions was called "the technology of transformation." Its purpose was to bring about personal transformation and for participants to claim their own personal sense of power.

EST sounds a lot like those motivational lectures given to business people at conferences. Only quieter.


And now - mindfulness.

Simply put, mindfulness is an awareness of the moment, remaining in the moment despite the natural thoughts and emotions that try to intrude on the meditative state. It is not new, of course. Buddha provided guidance for mindful contemplation and meditation roughly 2500 years ago.

A wise person I know describes mindfulness this way: Imagine that you put a puppy in the middle of the room. What is it going to do? Is it going to sit still? No, it will run off to find something fun to do. So you have to keep putting the puppy back in the middle of the room. You may have to do this many many times before the puppy stays in the middle of the room. It may not stay there today, so you can try again tomorrow.

The puppy is everything that intrudes on your meditation. The list of things you need to pick up on your way home. The appointment you need to make later on. The possibilities for tonight's dinner menu. The criticism of yourself for not being focused enough or not "doing meditation" correctly. Endless, endless intrusions upon simply resting in the present moment that is now.

My puppy is very, very active.

But I am getting better at recognizing a wandering thought and drawing myself back to quietness without as much judgement and personal indictment. It takes time.

I had an unfortunate introduction to mindfulness. I made the mistake of buying this book. I couldn't get past the introduction. The authors - Mark Williams, Jon Kabat-Zinn and two others - begin the book by making sure the reader is aware that if they are depressed, it is their own damn fault.

Quote: "You thought your way into depression, you can think your way out." Nonsense. These "experts" have decided that all the science about what happens in brain chemistry during depression and anxiety is not worth considering. It's easier to blame the depressed person for being depressed. Lovely, yes? I wonder if they would say the same thing to someone with diabetes. "If you had only thought happier thoughts, your insulin levels would be more stable." Not likely.

Bygones.

I've not picked up the book, but I have been practicing some mindfulness exercises. I'm also aware that mindfulness is really just the "word-du-jour." What I am attempting to do is good old fashioned Buddhist meditation. I'm not all that skilled yet, but it is becoming easier to reign in the natural flow of thoughts that demand my attention. I'm getting better at saying "Oh, there's a thought. I'll get back to it later. Right now my focus is...." as opposed to "Oh, there's a thought. I'm such a jerk. Why can't I do this???!!!????"

Baby steps.

Kerrie over at The Daily Headache quotes a meditation teacher who says, "As long as you’re breathing, there’s more right than wrong with you.”

Indeed. Sometimes breathing is the meditation itself. Seems like a good place to start.

Look! Shiny!

D'oh!

9 comments:

kathy a. said...

what a thoughtful post.

the historical background reminded me of a guy who did "affirmations" every day. he was in the apartment just below, and he stood in front of the bathroom mirror daily, saying [loudly and repeatedly] things like "i will be rich" and "women will be attracted to me." my roommate and i thought he was hilarious, but we tried to avoid him.

the book you mentioned sounds hideous.

wishing you well with quiet mindfulness, the real kind, and putting aside the blaming thoughts. xoxoxox

Jan said...

What a stupid book. That would have infuriated me, too, as I've suffered from clinical depression (see the label "Depression" on my blog) and other lesser varieties.

The image of the puppy is a great one for meditation. I'll try it. Perhaps we can commit to it together? Want to? I'm much better with accountability, which shows how immature I am, even though I'm closer to 60 than 50 now.

Sue said...

Thanks kathy a.!

Thanks to you too Jan. I don't think you're immature for wanting or needing a partner in spiritual endeavours. I think it's a sign of health to know how you function best.

I do appreciate your offer. I'll need to think about. My concern is that I don't want these meditative times to feel like "homework" and if I'm reporting to too many people (there are already a few) it may begin to feel like that.

I'll pray on it over the next few days. Thanks again Jan.

Crimson Rambler said...

is anybody else old enough to remember Dr. Coue? (koo-ay) ... his formula was "Every day, in every way, I'm growing better and better."

aka "There's one born every minute..."

Sue said...

CR - I've heard that "Every day" quote before. For some reason I thought it was from a Monty Python movie. Hubby and I tend to say it with just a bit of a British accent...

kathy a. said...

< shudder > crimson, that was another one my apartment neighbor said.

it's not that i'm against being positive. for example, sue, i think it is wonderful you are taking a leave, making the time and taking real steps to heal and find more peace. xoxo

but it is very damaging, in my opinion, when people think everything can be solved by positive thoughts. that is just baloney, and it ends up with blaming people for the ills that befall them.

i hope you threw the book across the room when you abandoned it; which isn't a very peaceful thought, but would be appropriate. :)

Sue said...

kathy a. - I agree entirely.

Eveline Maedel said...

I agree. Sometimes life happens and it is what it is. I am much more a fan of the "time for everything and everything in its season" type school of thought :0

there is a time for joy
a time for weeping
a time for laughing
a time for grieving
a time for planning
a time for working and
a time for resting

wishing you rest and restoration, Sue

mompriest said...

Yes, meditation is a discipline, somethinig we continue to learn about as we practice it...I like the idea of "practicing meditation" because it reminds us that we are always learning about meditation. I have practiced meditation for a long time. I learned it in the 1970's when it was new and all the rage and I was in college. Then I gave it up for a long while. THen I started again. The last two years I've been back on a meditation hiatus...maybe soon I'll start again.

Despite my sporadic love affair with meditating I do think it's a fabulous thing to do. And, really it is ok if your mind wanders...just return to meditating like you say... Be gentle with yourself...

Oh. and some people find doing some yoga postures before meditating helps quiet the body so the mind can be still...